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Robin Renteria, (919) 818-6362, Robin@RobinRenteria.com, uuweddingminister.com
If love is the answer.
could you rephrase the question?
~ Lily Tomlin
Rev. Robin Renteria is now booking through 2014.
She'll reply within 24 hours of receiving it.
Is Rev. Robin Renteria flexible in the wording used in the ceremony, including the vows?
Totally. She welcomes your ideas. You choose and approve every word that is said. She marries couples of many different beliefs, and she believse your ceremony honor your love in your own way. She's been building a compendium of resources over the last 16 years of choices for every aspect of a ceremony. She provides her ebook or sample ceremonies to you as part of her services. She uses your preferences, your ideas, your conversations about your love, to create a ceremony that is uniquely yours.
Can we write our own vows, if we want to?
Absolutely! Rev. Robin Renteria has examples to show you if you'd like, and a guide to help you write your own vows from scratch. You can also say spontaneous words from your heart. Sometimes each person in the couple writes their vow and she holds it for them until the ceremony. Sometimes couples write love letters to each other that they read in the ceremony. In a traditional ceremony, you only speak to each other during your exchange of vows and rings. As your wedding minister, she encourages you to express your love to each other in many different ways in the ceremony. The moment will go quickly. Make it your own.
Does she have a list of readings?
She has a list of over 100 readings and addresses drawn from ancient and modern wisdom, poetry from all over the world, from religious and secular sources. She also welcomes new choices that you bring to her. She has the work of Pablo Neruda, Maya Angelou, Rumi, the Bible, Thich Nhat Hanh, Wendell Berry, Dr. Seuss, The Velveteen Rabbit, and many more. She keeps adding to her collection of romantic, thoughtful, loving and light spirited ways to celebrate the paths of love and marriage.
How long are Rev. Robin Renteria's ceremonies?
Her ceremonies usually last 15 to 20 minutes long depending on the elements you choose for your ceremony. She cautions you from creating a ceremony so short that it's over before you know it, or so long that it becomes repetitious or your guests wilt in the summer heat. She has done ceremonies for couples which flow nicely that are an hour long and some that are 10 minutes long. She creates a script for you to review and edit to ensure your ceremony fits your needs and desires.
Does Rev. Robin Renteria require that premarital counseling be done?
She doesn't require premarital counseling. She does offer and recommend premarital counseling that she calls marriage enrichment that will benefit you at any point in your marriage. She uses several approaches: www.Prepare-Enrich.com to help couples assess their areas of strength and build upon areas where growth is needed; Les and Leslie Parrot's, 'How To Save your Marriage Before It Starts,' Gary Chapman's 'The 5 Love Languages', the work of Harvel Hendricks, and more. She wants you to have resources that will serve you all your lives.
Is Rev. Robin Renteria willing to conduct rehearsals?
Absolutely! She also helps you assess your need for a rehearsal, and then will guide it if that's what you want. Whether you have a rehearsal or not, she will ensure that she understands your vision for your ceremony so that everything will go smoothly. At the rehearsal she sets the tone for calm centered on your love. A wedding ceremony is ritual, not performance. It will be full of those small surprises that make good stories. In the rehearsal she will help you practice all of the formalities of your ceremony. Every detail is covered.
What happens if Rev. Robin Renteria can't be at the ceremony?
This hasn't happened in 17 years but she believes in contingency plans. If she can't be at your ceremony because of an unforeseen emergency you have your script with all your planning noted. She will arrange for another officiant for you and pay them out of what you paid her. She will never leave a couple stranded. And if she's in gridlock on I-40 on the way to your wedding she'll get there as soon as possible. She plans to arrive 45 minutes before your ceremony so has a large margin for error. If she arrive later than that and you have to begin, you have your script. Ask the person you would most like to present your script. Then she'll marry you as soon as she arrives. This too hasn't happened yet in 17 years.
Does Rev. Robin Renteria attend the rehearsal dinner or reception?
She greatly appreciates being asked, but she always prefers to come home for some quiet time with her Sweetheart, best friend, and husband, Ruben.
What sets Rev. Robin Renteria apart?
As a seminary educated ordained minister, she has been writing ritual and officiating at rites of passage for over 17 years. Thinking in ritual language and exploring the many different ways of expressing our deepest emotions is something she enjoys and treasures. She has studied the wisdom of the world's religions, as well as those secular philosophers and writers who seem to speak right to our hearts and souls. She respects them all and she has a wealth of resources upon which to draw.
Rev. Robin Renteria has been a hospital chaplain and is sensitive to the many emotional needs that arise. She also attends to details that arise and pitches in to help as needed.
Most of all she comes to your wedding fully present to your needs. She is happy in her own life and marriage, which enables her to be happy in yours.
Frequently Asked Questions
As a wedding minister and wedding officiant who wants to honor your vision, Rev. Robin Renteria loves your questions. If you don't see the answer to your question, please let her know. If she doesn't know, she'll figure it out or create something new with you.
As a UU minister, a wedding minister, a wedding officiant, or a wedding celebrant Rev. Robin Renteria primarily serves the NC Triangle: Orange, Durham, Wake, Chatham, and Alamance counties and the towns of Chapel Hill, Carrboro, Durham, Raleigh, Hillsborough, Cary, Mebane, Holly Springs, Fuquay Varina, Apex, Bahama, Burlington, and Efland.
Reverend Robin Renteria, Ph.D.
What officiant services does she provide?
As your wedding minister or wedding officiant, she offers civil, spiritual, interfaith, and non-denomination wedding ceremonies for heterosexual and same sex couples. She also offers memorial services and funeral services that are celebrations of the life for your loved one, baby blessings and christenings, house blessings, and pet memorials, all in your language of faith and tradition. She loves these special moments of honoring the love we share and have known in our lives.
Does Rev. Renteria have a sound system?
Yes! She has a portable battery operated sound system that she can take it to any venue for amplifying her and your voices. You can also plug in an IPOD player into her amplifier (a Roland Cube Street amplifier). If there is electricity at the venue, she uses my Samson Concert 77 wireless headset omnidirectional microphone which can sometimes also pick up the couple's voices nearby. She has a wired microphone on a stand for other speakers/readers or for the wedding couple. If there is no electricity at the venue, she uses a wired lapel microphone, and the couple and the readers use a wired microphone on a stand. NOTE: it's the couple's responsibility to provide extension cords.
Are you willing to perform a ceremony at a non-religious site?
Rev. Robin Renteria officiates weddings in whatever setting you choose - homes, churches, gardens, museums (including the butterfly room), gazebos, estates, lakes, beaches, the Old Well at UNC, on a mountain top, at resorts or hotels, or in snowy woods. They are all lovely.
What is Rev. Robin Renteria's attire for the ceremony?
She has different attire that's possible and leaves the choice up to the couple. She has ministerial robes in black and white for those who want to honor the religious role of the minister, or she can wear a black dress, brown dress, off white suit, and other garb for those who want a different look. She has many different examples on her blog. Also she loves color, so she tries to match the colors of the wedding. She only limits choices in the summer because of the NC summer heat.
Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill, and surrounding areas
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